Dares, Challenges and A Competition

previously on MissBehaviour...
Training of my sissies involves various usually thoughtful, but sometimes spontaneous, actions. I've described 'member-conditioning' for those of a distinctly bisexual persuasion and context, but left hints about dares and challenges. These teases need some degree of resolution to assuage the thirsts for 'kink' that my readership and my Harem seem to develop. And to encourage everyone to read on, digest, think and smile, there will be a competition.

Now keep calm....
it's just one of MissBehaviour's dares

A cursory glance at the postings in this blog will reveal that many of the sissies/subs in my harem have been privileged to receive dares and challenges from MissBehaviour. These can range from something really quite 'risky' in public to a loving suggestion for a private occasion between Master and 'wife'. Some houris^[1] actually want dares almost constantly - s4 is so sweet about this that I often have a little trouble thinking of something suitable.

Challenges are fun - both for Mistress and for the houri. They both develop and excite at the same time. The difficult part is to design just enough to ensure anticipation is mostly positive, risk and thrill is acceptable and ultimate reward satisfactory. Some factors to consider are:

• What is reasonably possible?
• Have they done something else that can be built upon?
• How much risk should we add?
• Is an element of humiliation required?

Most of my harem are deeply enamoured of ladies' underwear, so that pretty much always features in any dare in some form or other. Climax is often built in as a reward or a central part of the challenge, but need not always be so.

Some dares can be private and have their own fun. s2 and s6 have been given little 'suggestions' about actions to perform that, whilst with a little risk of humiliation in front of the partner, add a frisson of spice to the (usually sexual) entertainment. A good example is described in Follow the Lingerie Road..... where s6 was dared to make herself extra-specially inviting for her Master.

Some challenges thrive on being in semi-public. Very early ones with s7 were very sweet, and with her Mistress's distinct connivance and approval. She was ordered to have one of her Mistress's bras in her panties when at a pub for the evening and 'milk' herself into it.... Several of s1's most memorable dares were in public - buying 'top-shelf' magazines ostentatiously in a newsagent when a number of older teenagers were around^[2] and a series of fruit 'enjoyments' in her parked car are just a few simple examples. Quickies for s4 have sometimes involved going lingerie-clad into her garden to enjoy an 'exposed' masturbation.

'Interesting' underwear
© MissBehaviour 2011

Some of course particularly appreciate a humiliation aspect to their 'enjoyment' - s5 and s9 are the main culprits here. The easiest way to achieve this is to order them to buy some interesting items of ladies' lingerie in circumstances that are guaranteed to heighten their embarrassment. Tasking them to buy something not quite so common, such as a longline bra, which needs searching out specialist foundation-wear stores or at a time and place when there are plenty of other women around can work wonders. (s5 had to buy some lingerie from TopShop on a Saturday afternoon - the place was of course full of teenage girls ;-)

It's rare that a challenge is repeated, though sometimes it might be best to 'do it again' with an additional element generating extra frisson. One of the best examples of this is s4's lovely first steps in bikini sunbathing in a local park. She obviously relished the thrill, so the obvious next step was to push it that extra rather naughty step, by adding an orgasmic requirement. And the little sweetie completed it.

The Competition

Ecstatic at being one of MissBehaviour's houris
Aroused but scared of what challenge she'll face

Well - it's pretty obvious... Suggest a challenge either for one of my Harem specifically, or something rather more general. The simplest way is to add to the comments below. (I might also put in a little poll later.)

The most 'interesting' challenge will be given to one or more of my Harem to complete and report! 

Don't be shy or retiring, or hold back ("they won't do that will they?") - let MissBehaviour be the judge^[3]. Get your thinking caps on!

[1] I've used 'member of my Harem' too much, and sub/sissy is too bimodal. Until I tire of it, houri will be the word I'll use.
[2] s1 is a lady ;-), so this was a dare to get giggles and stares at her buying and perusing some magazines full of very-well-endowed (o  )(  o) girls...
[3] MissBehaviour's decision is final of course and modifications for practicality, privacy or just plain common sense may be necessary.

The subDomme dilemma

Philosophical Musings Warning

Is domination associative, transitive or both?

Domme/sub relationships described well can be arousing^[1], but cases where a female Domme is also a sub to someone else are fascinating.

I'm not talking about switching in a couple (which can have its own charms) but where the female Domme both controls her sub and in turn also surrenders herself to or is otherwise controlled by another Dom(me). The main interest is in the dilemmas and joys-of-tension that the lady-in-the-middle faces, how play, 24/7 and balance interact, and how the poor sub at the bottom of the heap fares. The Top Domme may have her own needs, but she can take care of herself.

Here I'll just muse and reflect about the situation. No judgements are made, no profound insights should be discerned, no even-remotely-firm conclusions will be drawn. Assume everything is qualified with 'maybe', 'might' or 'possibly'. My tone will tend to the jocular when I can, so I hope it also amuses. But beware: there are many arguments and some quite strong differences of opinion on this topic — these are only my thoughts — 'Tis the wind, and nothing more.

I have three (hot) examples from the 'blogosphere' I'll use to illustrate, discuss and muse. All I know about the first two comes from their blogs. For this post Domme names are emboldened and any abbreviations should be self-evident. All errors are mine and if anyone feels slighted or misjudged, please holler. These examples are:

• Molly in Under Contract To My Wife, where she has a cyber-Master (the 'Western Correspondent') with whom she has heavily orgasmic sessions with some regularity. Whilst the bulk of the (almost daily) narrative is written by the 'slave' (Mick) there is a lot of additional material provided by the others involved, mostly in comments.
• Diane in Bi and Large..., who has a physical Mistress (Sandra) who she meets frequently. A strong 'threesome' is developing rapidly, with the sub ('hubwife', formerly Michelle) definitely at the bottom of the heap. The blog is written exclusively by Diane^[2].
• s1, one of my subs, who has a strong and well-established D/s relationship with her cuckolded and feminized husband (s1_v) but is also very cyber-beholden to MissBehaviour. (Some exploits are described on the blog.) All material described here is from my own experience and point-of-view. It is also deliberately circumspect.

From Domme to subDomme

All three seem well-established as a Domme within marriage before adding and developing the submissive relationship - I suspect it will be rare the other way round,  though one could foresee possibilities. But the initial triggers toward submission vary somewhat:

• Diane 'fell in love' with another woman.... and that head-over-heels progressed towards something with a power dimension. 'hubwife' just had to accept what inevitably was happening.
• Molly (and Mick) decided that some 'cuckoldry' element would add some additional spice, and they advertised for suitable candidates. (The cuckoldry hasn't yet become 'physical'. Given the fun evident in the relationship, any such might not be as traumatic as is sometimes the case in other D/s cuckold situations.)
• s1 and MissBehaviour met serendipitously while temporarily fleeing from an 'improved' chat site to a safe-haven. We 'clicked' pretty quickly and it was clear MB was able to feed her with some of the type of mental domination she needed.

What is it that these ladies wanted in addition to their control in Domme mode ^[3]? Obviously in Diane's case there was a very strong (physical) sexual need that 'hubwife' couldn't satisfy (but paradoxically another lady could!), but for Molly and s1 they had apparently highly satisfactory sources on tap.

A distinct possibility is wishing temporarily to relinquish responsibility, by handing over (sexual) control to another and do this in a way that deeply pleasures and satisfies in the sex context she has grown to love. Molly's weekly switch two hours satisfies that in part (Mick finds it terribly hard work, and as the lowest-paid employee in UCTMW Inc feels that these types of  fringe benefit could be much more generous ;-), but using the sub in switch-mode probably doesn't really satisfy the 'surrender' element. To achieve this needs a third party.

Or it might simply be just plain fun!

The Domme's Dom(me)

The choice of who will dominate the dominatrix is critical of course, especially if, as here, the intention is not to destroy the existing (and presumably very satisfactory) D/s relationship already in place and possibly even enhance it. In two of our cases domination comes from cyberspace primarily (MB/s1 is through chat and email, WC/Molly uses email, blog & phone), in the other it is physical.

Trust, humour, imagination and intelligence are essential. The ability to seize opportunities and remarks and turn them into action can really make things work. Excellent examples include Sandra exploiting a daydreaming moment by Diane to trigger a further stage in 'pet development', MB building a whole set of scenarios from an offhand remark by s1_v and many occasions where Molly's WC will make salacious suggestions via text, often at or after bedtime.

For the cyber cases, the remote sexual domination (mind-fucking is an excellent term) can be supplemented physically. Supervised masturbation of course is pretty central... the Hitachi makes itself worth-its-weight in helping with intensity. (Mick has been in deep trouble when the toy has been mislaid.) And in some cases the sub can act as a physical surrogate, being directed closely by the remote Dom(me), though it needs very clear bounds and high trust in the sub (which is definitely the case in our examples.) s1_v has been eminently successful in such a role for MB/s1, in part from the extensive training she had from her Mistress. There is some evidence of WC 'strongly suggesting' actions for Mick to execute during the couple's switch two hours.

What about the poor (old) sub?

Part of the difficulty in keeping the balance and enjoyment for all is what happens to the bottom of the heap. Assuming he doesn't really get off by being totally ignored, then he needs attention and directive attention, but what, from whom, when and how? If we assume the TopDomme does know about the sub, then what is the dynamic between all three parties?

This is where transitivity and associativity from the strap line enter.
   Does the bottom sub get dominated directly by the  Domme [transitivity]?
   Does "(Domme → domme) → sub" ≡ "Domme → (domme → sub)" [associativity]?
Enquiring minds want to know, and seek evidence.

In two situations the transitivity is strong, in the other less so.

• In Diane's case the issue of when, whether and how Sandra dominates 'hubwife' is the subject of some almost heated arguments in the blog's comments. This relationship is becoming a strong close threesome and 'hubwife' already provides domestic service to her TopDomme weekly, sometimes with a degree of hilarity. But even here Diane is experiencing the dilemma and some of the comments in reaction to her blog are becoming a little acerbic, and perhaps not helpful.
• MB has free-rein to domme s1_v  directly (this has been made clear several times by s1) and she does as circumstances permit, though primary focus is on s1 herself of course. 
• Any control of Mick by WC appears loose and jocular and mostly suggestions to Molly made during their frequent technologically-supported intercourse - this is definitely a case where the transitivity is weak.

The associativity relates to whether Domme works on domme, the resulting state operating on sub, or whether Domme works on the 'pair' as one and does it make a difference?

• MissBehaviour actually operates in both modes - often working primarily on s1 who then may 'punish' s1_v subsequently. But she also sometimes works with the pair together, with direct control of s1 punishing her sub. A fun variant of the latter is where they have to punish and arouse each other in turn, closely directed by MB. As they are very aware of each other's limits and are very experienced, this can be extremely satisfactory for all parties.
• For Diane the associativity issue becomes one of how much 'independence' she is granted or asserts or can generate herself in controlling 'hubwife'. This is fascinating and well worth following some of the twists and turns and musings in her blog. And clearly it isn't easy.
• For Molly it is much more clear cut - the Molly/Mick dynamic is really under her control alone.

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Does it matter? Well yes. The common thread amongst these is building, developing and maintaining happy relationships, with much trust and lots of fun. And central to that is all parties (including the poor (old) sub) understand what they're doing: accepting, agreeing and contributing to it, and getting pleasure from it. All are intelligent, consenting adults, who listen to each other and listen closely. And how the domination and submission is agreed, traded and controlled is crucial.

Comments are welcomed of course.. but don't get too heated. Back to lighter, dirtier or more fun stuff in future posts.

MissBehaviour 

[1] Two good 'conventional' D/s relationships I dip into are: MsMarie and All Mine (only FLRs grab my attention ;-). I'll summarise / review these in a later posting.
[2] After a particularly 'heavy' set of comments around an exceptionally powerful and intense development in their relationship, Sandra posted an appreciative 'closure' comment on behalf of Diane.
[3] The Domme advice - always experience what you are going to dish out, if only in part, whilst sound, is orthogonal to these musings.

... Three Banana, Four

Very Messy Behaviour Warning

 previously on MissBehaviour...

One Banana, Two Banana .... showed how an offhand remark can be twisted to some nicely wicked and completely unexpected fun. But as I hinted there, another wicked possibility stirred in my mind, could be linked beautifully and a few weeks later was sprung on unsuspecting (but ultimately extraordinarily giggly) victims, in a session that became simply hot.

s1 had been chatting with me, when a girlfriend (familiar with and involved in her lifestyle - I'll refer to her here as J) was around. I'd chatted with both of them before (and they had done some joint challenges set by MB) and they were interested in some directed 'fun'. In previous weeks s1_v (s1's femme cuck and my occasional surrogate) had made sure there were adequate supplies of suitable objects for one particular scene. It was obvious that the girls had everything needed: time, inclination and horniness, as well as a clear desire to get very messy. This was a suitable juncture to develop the theme and surprise them.

The girls were ordered to strip and await orders. Nervousness was clear, while s1_v, who was going again to act as an assistant and my partial surrogate, arranged the props: these would include a large plastic sheet and worn underwear for later use.

I started by reminding them of s1_v's fun with primates... she'd had to red-facedly confess to J all about it on a previous occasion and naturally J had laughed uproariously at her embarrassment. But now they had to turn their attention to numerous bunches of bananas on the floor.

"Now you remember that a certain young 'lady' enjoyed wanking her 'banana' with chimpanzees?"
... Nods ...
"you, ladies, are going to be female chimps thoroughly enjoying 'real bananas' - lots of them..."

We agreed that chimps didn't have the cleanest of table manners, or indeed any other noticeable form of tidiness, which is why the sheet was there.

Then I gave them their first exercise... to see if they could find anywhere to hide some bananas....

Well - they set to, and searched amongst the 'folds and crevices' (as Mick in UCTMW so eloquently phrases it) looking for possibilities. Soon they had both found openings of promise. They'd been told to try to hide four bananas between them, so slowly they stored them in the 'caches' - it was helped by the fruit being rather firm, and that surprisingly some of the holes apparently had auto-lubrication. The others holes offered entry after some additional oral persuasion.

By now the lady chimps were very proud of themselves and not a little flushed by their total success in "Hide the Banana". But they were complaining about being a little hungry (poor things...) So as a reward I had to let them eat something... but it shouldn't be too easy for them. They had to find where they'd hidden that fruit...

Their faces beamed and they set about trying to find those convenient little caches again. Now as we've said, chimps have no table manners worth considering, so you will not be shocked when they ate their sustenance directly from the storage containers. It got very messy and somehow various nooks and crannies got very damp, whilst the chimps were obviously enjoying their impromptu feast, to judge from the moans and shrieks.

Well once you've got them started, you really can't stop can you? They were still hungry of course and wanted more of the tasty treats, hoping for a lovely medley of flavours. So blatant stuffing and gorging became the next item on the menu...

Later on, we decided that a little more modesty was called for, so the chimps were persuaded to put on some (old) bras and panties. But they'd sort of forgotten where the squirrel stored his nuts, and a little later the wisdom in choosing old underwear was demonstrated.

The 'tea party' actually took about 2-3 hours in all, but at the conclusion, two lady chimps, grinning madly from ear to ear, and with exceptionally messy appearance, declared that they wanted another similar treat. This they did on another occasion, but then it got even dirtier.

One Banana, Two Banana ....

It was all s1_v's fault. Really
All down to an offhand remark

s1_v is s1's feminised (and cuckolded) husband, and whilst she suffers and enjoys torment at the hands of her mistress, she also sometimes acts as a physical surrogate for MissBehaviour in punishing s1. She has been well trained in appropriate arts by her mistress, provides excellent commentary and makes it possible to ensure s1 is pushed right up to her limits when MB requires. As part of the reward for such valuable service she is often permitted, or rather instructed, to have a session of excessive masturbation, something both I and s1 agree can be just as humiliating, and much more fun to watch, than denial.

After a particularly successful session disciplining s1, we allowed her such a 'treat', which she thoroughly enjoyed: "i went into the bedroom and masturbated frantically like a chimp on heat"

Now one thing my harem is beginning to be aware of is that MissBehaviour is very sensitive to serendipitous ideas and opportunities. This was one of them. My antennae twitched and a wicked idea developed - just how extensively wicked only became apparent some weeks later. Sharing this with s1 was the first stage - she laughed and laughed and laughed and laughed and we agreed to spring the surprise on s1_v on the next suitable occasion.

On opportunity duly arose - s1_v had performed some useful service and deserved a treat. So she chatted to MB and I told her she'd be allowed a  nice long 'self-abuse' session. We also agreed that 'doing it' with others was better than alone.

Now to spring the trap.

© Univ. of Western Ontario 2009

I reminded her of her previous remark. Wouldn't she love to play with herself along with others doing so on video: like chimps on heat^[1]? So that is what she was ordered to do, watching the videos intently, for about an hour. Progress was checked occasionally by s1 of course, who was then enjoying a nice long chat with her Mistress.

Such fun and so humiliating and something that can be, and was, used to tease her mercilessly on subsequent occasions. She even had to tell one of s1's girlfriends (who's completely in the know about and is an occasional player in their lifestyle) all about her 'primate session', with a very red face I assume.

But MB had already the inklings of another related and wicked theme, involving fruit. An opportunity to spring this second deliciously dirty trap on worthy prey arose a few weeks later. And soon I'll give you details...  

[1] No - no links here - but a cursory search with appropriate terms will bring up a surprising set of videos of our-near-primates shamelessly enjoying themselves.

What is Truth? .... is it Real?

Philosophical Musings Warning

On the Internet, nobody knows you're a dog

Who knows? Does it really matter? How many of the tales from my 'stable'^[1] are true? Given the large doses of fantasy obviously not all is fact, but a lot of it clearly is.
Of course we all do envelope ourselves with cloaks of mild anonymity (and layers of cloaks) as a core part of our way of life here, so there is uncertainty and at times, doubt.
As may be apparent MissBehaviour has not (yet) physically met any of these fortunate individuals (two are Stateside so that's unlikely anyway), so evidence is indirect. But I do have good reason to believe most of what they tell me, for the following reasons:

• In some cases I have good photographic evidence to back it up. (No - these are not shareable... they are strictly private between sub and Mistress, though one does involve lipstick kisses of considerable intimacy.) Of course with some there is mild or extreme reluctance to furnish such (you know who you are) and I rarely push things too hard. (Wannabes that roll out the limp excuse 'my camera is broken' have been weeded out long before they get the privilege of even getting on the waiting list for my 'chosen ones'.)
• When you've been chatting to someone for a long time, often with many hundreds of thousands of words exchanged, you really do get a sense of their personality and genuineness. Of course they may be absolutely superb actors (and given my premium on imagination this is of course a risk), but keeping that up consistently over months and months would require almost a split-personality..... oh!
• Why would someone expend over months energy and dedication required to satisfy MissBehaviour's demands for imagination? Sure - she's worth it in the end, but as a 'lark'?
• In a few cases I often chat to their partners and then it's definitely clear I am talking to another person - s2 is a good example, where her partner and I sometimes arrange little surprises for s2. And in a very torrid 5-hour session with s1 and one of her lady friends, involving loads of bananas^[2], her feminised husband was acting as a surrogate for me (she will feature in other posts and will be identified as s1_v). Then most definitely several people are involved.

Does it matter? Well, not really... in the end we get the enjoyment. Those lovely occasions where everyone's switched on and you can bask in the warm glow of an exceptional mind-fuck.

[1] I'm not entirely satisfied with using 'stable' as the collective noun. 'Harem' might be better, but even that lacks something. A prize is offered for the best alternative. My sissies/subs are ordered to put their thinking caps on. 
[2] You will hear about that another time.

Every little (or preferably large) helps...

As part of the continuing programme of elucidation into my submissives and their fun, I should introduce s1 through one of the first of her assignments. This happened not long after we had first made contact, and MissBehaviour was naïve (yes really...) about just how bold and imaginative she is....

It started with a little simple precursor.... a challenge to do some shopping while plugged. She seemed to rise to that with alacrity, though she admitted she'd done that before. So I suggested (in those days I 'suggested' - now the term is an order that can be suspended if circumstances really warrant) that next time she should purchase a certain firm green long cylindrical 'fruit' (which it is technically) and use it on herself in the carpark of the store.

Well, she went to her local branch of a certain well-know, little-helping, UK supermarket, actually plugged in her other hole and as she admitted, feeling nervous and wet. Checking out with two quite large cucumbers was a mite arousing and soon she was back at the car.

Practicality indicated a reasonably short skirt.... easy access but long enough to preserve modesty with fruit ensconsed. A damp, almost wet thong on the passenger seat would give contra-indicative signs however. s1 is nothing if not inflicted with some nymphomania, so it wasn't long before she had full-depth stimulation.

A car pulling up next to her might have been cause for concern, but the occupant walked off unnoticing. Our girl doesn't let something like that put her off her stride and soon she was enjoying a climactic sequence. Later a woman also parked and may well have seen something, but by this stage s1 was too far gone to stop, merely 'hunkering down' to reduce exposure. When that lady returned with her shopping s1 didn't even lower her skirt to preserve modesty (in her own shameless words: "i didnt hide, left my skirt pulled up, my freshly shaven naked cunt on display with the cucumber hanging out ") and the viewer merely smiled...

Mission accomplished, my sub drove home, thong and 'instrument' all sopping wet, on the passenger seat beside her. Later of course she reported to me.

That was the start of an interesting sequences of challenges, some of which will be described for the readers' pleasures.

What is MissBehaviour? Who is She?

One has to be elegant © MissBehaviour 2011

Well... it's one of my TV outlets for a lot of imaginative and sometimes downright sexy fun. As I am an elegant transvestite who can project a very classy domme image at times, and loves to be imaginative, playful and firm but not cruel, then cyber-'toying' with sissies and similar is fun, and is I think, much appreciated by those with whom I indulge. MissBehaviour works at her peak with those who similarly spark in reciprocative imagination, where we both build considerable shared thoughts (many of which can be much more than simply risqué), ideas and straightforward play. Where She does not work is with the 'please feminise me Mistress' brigade. Like many Dommes, the last thing we want to hear is "Anything you wish Mistress" - that is only acceptable with those we are very close to, and even then rarely.

I'll illustrate this by discussing some of my current cyber-stable. To protect the 'innocent' (ha!) they'll have simple identifiers, and many of the details will be elided, altered in specifics or just omitted. However: i) you will get a sense of the fun this all entails and ii) those individuals involved will clearly recognise themselves, and I trust in many cases feel proud that MissBehaviour recognises them.

• s1 is the cream of the crop. A lady who is both Domme and sub, she is very beholden to MissBehaviour, having completed many interesting assignments, and subject to a lot of online domination of various real-time forms. She is highly intelligent, exceptionally and filthily imaginative and a dominant cuckoldress to her feminised husband (s1_v), who is by agreed associativity, also submissive to me. She and I converse a very great deal on much else beside the dominative sexual control.
• s2 is a feminised cuckold who is very happily developing into a #2 woman role in her wife's new and very deep relationship. I discuss, 'train' (such as becoming much much happier with the alpha male in the 'family', and his impressive manhood) and generally encourage her. I also have much pleasure in chatting at length and making very useful suggestions to the cuckolding wife.
• s3 is a husband who very much enjoys the pleasures of masturbation, and is successfully developing mutual abuse  fun with his rather nice wife, who it appears is becoming less shy about her own needs. He likes to enjoy himself in somewhat risky situations, especially some on the phone that can be a bit hair-raising, and of course ladies' underwear figures rather strongly, both to wear and 'enjoy'.
• s4 is a young rather sweet TV who is developing girlie habits and fun originally from indulging opportunities with his aunt's and his mother's wardrobes... She likes 'dares' which she has been executing very well, and is often apologetic if she can't manage something due to real-life circumstances. Her 'life' is just beginning to include others, with a 'Daddy' and 'Aunts' featuring on some rare occasions.
• s5 is a closet single sissy who wants to be shamed and exposed (don't they all ;-)) and like many is in it for the risk thrill. Excessive masturbation is a vital ingredient, as is a 'shrine' at her home. She gets given assignments to shop for ladies underwear in interesting circumstances and revels in the fact that the manageress of one ladies lingerie shop called her 'a pervert'.
• s6 is another cuckold who has developed and now taken up full-time with a Master for whom she is really settling down to be a satisfied wife. I help her with suggestions for 'spicing up' some of their relationship. 
• s7 is a sissy who's been developed slowly by her wife over several years and has just had her first 'male' sexual experience. I've given some interesting semi-public assignments in the past.
• s8 is a precocious little brat, again very very imaginative, who's beginning to explore a new persona and 'world', sometimes with MissBehaviour and s1 directing her simultaneously.